How To Make Husbands Better (For Wives)

(***) No woman can make a man be a man. If a woman ever "did" make a man be a man, the woman would be dissatisfied with the man she made, because the man's love and appreciation of the woman would have been based on the woman having been required to "make" the man do so. Obviously, that is not meaningful to wives.

(***) So women are in a difficult position. Needing to be loved by men, yet feeling helpless in knowing how to get men to translate their love to women in real life events. You know, like, "Take out the trash when it is full without me always having to tell you to do so!" Or, "Can't you just give me ten minutes at the end of your day to listen to my feelings!" ... "Which is more important to you, me or the television!!!" , and so on.

(***) Not knowing what else to do, many wives threaten and control their husbands. Some do so overtly, and some covertly. To these women, having tried all they know to reason and communicate with their husbands, resort finally to "forcing" their husbands to be the kind of men and husbands they are supposed to be.

(***) Essentially, it's women trying to be bigger men than the men they are married to. It could be a good idea, accept there is one problem with this. It doesn't work. It never has, and never will. A man is a man when he decides to be one. For life in general, as well as each moment of each day, if a woman makes a man be a man, he is no longer a man, and this is one thing men can't stand. Simply put.

(***) The fact is, men don't "hear" women when they make demands on them in the activity of severe criticism. This is especially true when verbalized pressure to change a man is attempted in the context of an intimate, couple relationship.

(***) Then, if even screaming, threatening, blackmailing, lying, bringing up the past, and nervous break downs women have had to resort to fail to get through to men, what are women to do???

(***) Good question. My advice to you is this, "manipulate" the guy. ... Yes, you heard me right. Manipulate the man. "Trick" your husband, and do so with all your God given female creative capacity to deceive him.

(***) I'm not joking. I'm serious, very serious. ... You see, it is "women" who "detest" the idea of being manipulated. Men, on the other hand, really don't mind it. But with a man who is good, or Godly, there will be certain conditions you must first know as a woman before you begin confounding him with your trickery. That is that the initiator of the gross manipulatings on this man must be performed by an elogant, charming Godly woman, who will practice her art of deception in a prayerful spirit of love and respect. Also, that this special and powerful woman in this man's life will continue this brilliant plan to manipulate him will cotninue graciously until the conclusion of both his and her lives (i.e.: his wife).

(***) The point is this, the enormous power wifes have over husbands, is their "influence". Over shere "man power", I'd choose what women have to change their husbands, lovingly, any day.

(***) By your mere presence. By the manner you approach and leave. Your pauses, your appreciation. By the sound of your voice, by your intelligence in carefully chosen words you speak and win. Remind your husband who he is. Tell him what he will become, and yes, even before he has become it. Be positive in ways only you can be positive to your husband. ... Oh, and yes, pray for him. I must tell you Satan and his army of lies will be beaten, scattered, and in flight.

(***) (More will be in future blog posts. If you wish to comment, ask questions, offer opinions, submit additions or challenge with criticism, please feel free to write to: http://www.catholicpsychology@hotmail.com/ .